Love vs Legalism

(From the mind of he)

I've learned that it is really easy to judge and really difficult to love. To live by grace and truth and not under the law. It says in John that Moses brought the law but Jesus showed how to live by grace and truth. So you have the law and you have grace. It is easy to let personal convictions stand in the way of loving others, or rather see faults in people instead of seeing how good they really are at loving someone that you may find it hard to love.
I know in my personal life that grace and my own judgement of others gets intermingled way too much. God is the only judge, I must show grace to all because it was shown so abundantly to me. So the question becomes, how important are personal convictions? Is it Bible based or just a human concept? If I stick by my convictions but don't love someone because of those convictions, I feel I am definitely missing the point. I also feel that you don't have to sacrifice the way God wants you to live to love people. I believe Jesus is the key. He did this perfectly. He didn't do away with the law but fulfilled it. He loved people perfectly. He loved them in a true way. He was there for them but challenged them. He broke free from the pharisees perceptions of right and wrong and just showed truth. This must be what I do. I must live in truth, not my interpretation of truth, but the Truth.
I must love and show grace. I must always listen to the Holy Spirit who screams at me often. I must stop thinking that I have it figured out and kneel down and listen to the one who does.